My Own ‘It Gets Better’ Story – Have Faith


Faith is a knowledge within the heart, beyond the reach of proof. 

– Khalil Gibran 

If you’re reading this feeling that you’ve lost a little (or maybe a lot) of hope out there, let me say that I empathize with you. I’ve been broken and felt very hopeless. I want to write this post in hopes of showing whomever comes across it that you have the power to overcome the negative things in your life.

This May I graduated from the University of Oklahoma. Once the pomp and circumstance (pun intended) was over, life just seemed to stop.  I didn’t know where to apply, I started emailing people, I had no idea where my path was taking me next.

For 3 months, I felt so helpless… Watching my family have their own struggles, yet here I am – lost, confused and I didn’t know where to turn.

I can’t tell you how many times I cried just thinking of the major let down I’ve become. Of course, being unemployed (and still living with your family) is certainly not as bad as other situations out there, but let me tell you how I get through it…

1) Surround yourself With The Right People

Without the right support system, your motivation to move your life in a positive direction won’t be there. I had my Phamily, and a very great group of friends by my side. By just them lending their ears, looking at the classifieds with me, or just asking how they could help meant more to me than they’ll ever know.

2) Find inspiration

My family was right there, I had friends to talk to. What I needed was seeing examples of people beating the odds, and never giving up in the pursuit of their dreams. My sister used to write down inspirational quotes all the time. Sometimes just seeing positive affirmations in your daily life can help.

What got me through was laughter. Whether it was something funny like a comedic bit between Joey McIntyre and Emanuel Kiriakou, or a funny scene with David Henrie on “Wizards of Waverly” place, laughter healed my heart.

3) Have Faith

There’s nothing more important than believing situations have a purpose. Like my pastor says, “God’s not being spiteful if something you wanted didn’t happen. It means something better’s out there for you.”

Is this the formula for everyone? Certainly not, but it was my formula. And you know what? I did land a job finally. Today in fact. 🙂 After three months of not finding anything, I got a call today for a great career opportunity.

Special Thanks to: 

My Family: We cry, we argue, but we also love each other and support each other. Thank you for helping me out in so many ways. 

My Friends: Doesn’t matter if I called you, texted you, tweeted you… If you were there for me, I thank you. It was a dark part of my life and I thank you for being there for me. 

My idols: 

Joey McIntyre: Joe, your music and humor means more to mean me than you’ll ever comprehend. I love you so so much, and I thank you for giving me hope when I felt like I lost it. 

David Henrie: I needed laughter so much when I was down. You gave those laughs to me. You also gave me my new life motto. Thank you for being such a good role model to young ones like me. 

Tristan MacManus: You know what it’s like to struggle. You also smile in positive situations. You also know what loyalty is. THANK YOU so much for always being so willing to work with me. I love you dancing buddy. 

If I had to leave one thing for you to learn from this NOVEL of a post, it’s this: DON’T GIVE UP. Harder than it sounds, I know. Things get better! THEY DO! If a door closes… and another one… and another… Bust a wall and find a window. 😉 May God bless, and I hope that I inspired at least one person from writing this. 😀

– SP

 

2 Comments

  1. Amy Cavenaugh

    Hey! 🙂 This blog happened to show up in my “Yahoo Alerts” for Joe and I’m so glad it did. I’ve seen your name around Twitter but didn’t know much about you. Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve been in dark places recently too and I’m glad to see that Joe could help inspire someone else the way he inspires me. Of course I knew that already because he’s pretty awesome. 🙂 Congrats on finding a job! I am in the unemployed boat and have been for a while. I just keep keeping on and going for my dream (for me, it’s publishing my novel, also inspired by Joe) So glad you have a good support system. For me, it’s awesome friends. 🙂 Best of luck to you! Feel free to follow me on Twitter & I’ll follow back (couldn’t find your Twitter name? tech-challenged) The BH account is @twisted_writer

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