Today’s post deals with something I talk about frequently and I’m passionate about — dreams, specifically a PSA to not sh*t on YOUR dreams and the dreams of others.
I’m a firm believer in not doubting your own dreams. If you want to find a cure for cancer or shoot hoops in the NBA, that is your ambition. The only respectful attitude to our own dreams is not to judge the dreams of others.
A few months ago I wrote about my dream of finding sincere and honest love. I’ve had a few conversations with my friends where they rip me to shreds when it comes to my romantic own pursuits. You have to be careful if your friends are pessimists in realist’s clothing. It’s such a double standard to fully go for your own dreams, then sh*t on someone else’s. They’ll tell you they’re looking out for you, they don’t want you to get hurt. In reality, their words of “realism” are a toxic breeding ground for that negative energy you to doubt yourself.
I am fully aware there’s an 80-99% chance I’m not going to end up with Zac. Facts of life. To say tactless things like “He’s up here, you’re down here, he doesn’t even know you exist, there’s a good chance you’ll never meet him (on top of A host of other hurtful things) really does an emotional number on me. I legit thought I was going mentally insane for feeling the way I feel – I questioned my sanity FOR HAVING FEELINGS. I became depressed and felt hopeless at one point, because I thought, “if my friends are saying this stuff, well then I’m f*cked. I’m not worthy of love and they just think I’m meant to settle and not be happy.” Y’all, I became a joke, a point of mockery. I can’t stress this enough don’t do this to people you actually consider your close friends.
I’m a realist. It’s a beautiful thing if my friends are so passionate to declare dreams like, “I want to be on Ellen,” or “I want to sing with Charlie Puth,” like GO FOR IT! I’m not a fortune teller. I can’t sit here and tell you, “Hell no that’s not going to happen. It’s not in my mentality or heart to discourage people to go after what they want. Manifestation is a real thing. What you speak into the universe materializes. In Zac’s words, “you are what you reach for.”
GRAMMY NOMINATED MAMA WE MADE IT! 8 years ago I was homeless. 7 years ago me and my brother @6ixvmg were making beats in a basement. 6 ago I signed to defjam and told him to drop out of Med School! A few number one albums later, platinum plaques and a bond stronger than ever, we’re heading to the Grammys! Thank you to everyone involved who made this a reality. But most importantly to the man who’s given me a sound and a platform to express myself creatively. None of this would be possible without you 6ix I LOVE YOU! We going suit shopping my guy!!!!!!! #Everybody #1800 #RattPack
I love Logic. He’s such an inspiration. For him to be vulnerable enough to share his story of hustling from homelessness to his own definition of success is truly amazing. And honestly, excuse the language but he doesn’t f*ck with nobody. While they speak words of disbelief he quietly busts his ass off to make HIS record, on his terms, and through his words and his message, whilst being a straight G.O.A.T.
A young woman at Zac’s DragonCon panel asked, “Eugene’s dream was to live on an island that he owned, tan and rested and alone surrounded by enormous piles of money. Then Rapunzel became his new dream. So what is your dream?” He proceeds to launch into this beautiful monologue about a) finding love. B) How there is so much pain in the world, and how he wishes he could take it away. Aside from the fact I became a blubbering baby after seeing this, but people this is what it’s about. WE ALL HAVE DREAMS. We are the music makers and we are the dreamer of dreams. Dreams humanize and humble us.
Don’t be a d*ck when it comes to your own dreams and the dreams of others. Innovation, healing, and progress they all come out of dreams. If I have my own stance on my dating prerogative don’t shut me down and go on a quest for someone that may not even be a person I could fall in love with. God knows what is in store for me romantically, none of us have that key to the future. It’s foolish to act as puppeteers and Gods/goddesses. Friends are sometimes going to have what we dub as ‘crazy’ dreams. It’s not our job to destroy them. It’s our job to work with them and encourage them to their realization and evolving path. “No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, a dream that you wish will come true.”