Learning to not give a f*ck

For those of you who know me really well, you know I have a pattern. It's been a pattern since I could remember. Yes, I fall for a certain archetype (we established this). But recently, I've noticed a difference in my perspective, and it's this beautiful thing called "not giving a f*ck. (I really need ...

30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 19

Editor's Note: I apologize for leaving such a huge gap! Some stuff went down recently, and I had to take a few days off to really process and get into a better headspace.  Day 19 - Declutter that messy head! What's going? Are you stressed? What is on your mind?  Well, lots of things... I had ...

30 Days of Journaling – Day 14

Make a list of the people in your life who genuinely believe in and support you, and whom you trust. ** This is list is hella huge, so allow me to get through it, haha. My Dance Fam -  Y'all encouraged me since I met you felt the love since day 1. Thank you for allowing ...

30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 9

  *Author's note - I cheated and stole the "30-day letter writing challenge" prompt because I thought writing about sleep sounded boring.  Letter Writing Challenge Day 9 - Write To Someone You Wish You Could Meet  (Y'all already know who this is going to... so I'll try to be the least bit repetitive from my previous ...

30 Day Stress Relief Journal Day 8

Day 8: What are two negative thoughts you don't want anymore? What can you do to let go?  If you had to rate me on the optimist-pessimist scale, you could say I'm in between. I'm not a raging optimist (even though I try to be), and I'm not someone who is exactly completely negative 100% of ...

30 Day Stress Relief Journal Day 7

Day 7: Today I love my body because....  Today I love my body because it tells the story of my past and present. Hello, Steph Pham readers! Today I'm feeling rather confident, and it's not because I made the effort of waking up at 5:30 A.M. to shower, style my hair and makeup before work I'm ...

30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 5

Disclaimer: I know I skipped Day 4, but I wasn't really in the headspace to write yesterday, but YAY! Day 5! Day 5 - List 10 Things that make you smile. 10. Memes -  -  My friends and I share memes back and forth like a conversation, and it's wonderful. 9. West Coast Swing - I ...

30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 3

  Day 3: Describe a happy memory? What do you see, smell, hear, feel?  I was originally going to write about my family trip to Disney World back in 2010. About how the color was mega-watt vibrant, the smells of many varieties of food, the feeling of a euphoria cornucopia (that's basically Disney World). I loved Disney ...

30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 2

Day 2: What's going well in your life right now?  Self-worth. I've come to a place where I truly base my value and worthiness off of my attitude, ethos, and kindness I deliver out to the world. I suffered from Obsessive Comparison Disorder for the longest time. Especially when I was in dance. I would ...

30 Day Stress Relief Journal Prompts: Day 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fCye59l3qM "Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that thankfulness is indeed a virtue." - William Bennett DAY 1: I'm thankful for what I have, because... I'm thankful for what I have because it makes me human. Gratitude humbles us and grounds us in reality. I didn't want to turn this post into a soapbox, so ...

Things With Steph Pham – A Post Inspired By Zac Levi

  https://twitter.com/stephlpham/status/868561502214795265 https://twitter.com/zacharylevi/status/868567539147710464 When in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the material bonds which have connected them with stuff… Can we just take a moment and reflect on how deep and philosophically challenging Zac made this post? I like that he didn’t make it easy. I like ...

Self Worth & Phamily: The Story Behind My Chosen Words For MyIntent

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iDL9tE2AFPk  I’m not one to buy into Facebook ads. However, the ones for “MyIntent” kept popping up in my NewsFeed so I decided to check out their story and mission. Their mission statement grabbed my attention because I’m a conversationalist at heart. God gave me the gift of incessantly talking. The older I get, the more ...

Obsessive Compulsive Dreaming Disorder

Obsessive Compulsive Dreaming Disorder. Is it a real condition? No. Do I think I have it? Yes. I'm a constant dreamer. Both in the "I go to sleep and dream," sense and the dreamer of fantasies, desires and beyond. They say your subconsciousness reveals more about you than your consciousness. So, I do ponder my ...

You Get To Find A New Dream

After viewing the amazing Broadway production that is She Loves Me thanks to BroadwayHD, I had a curiosity and wonder if an opportunity was available at what appeared to be an elite and showstopping company. BroadwayHD is a streaming service that offers live performance lovers everywhere the chance to experience the theater even if they ...

Don’t Take Your Local Westie Scene For Granted

As I'm soaking in the deliciousness of the salted caramel gelato, my friend Meredith said something that grabbed my attention. We talked about how we traveled a bit and how we peeked into some local scenes. When the subject of  blessed local studios/swing dance societies with great promoters, DJs, teachers & well diverse group of dancers, ...

Top 5 Reasons to go to Swingtacular!

Westies (aka West Coast Swing dancers) shouldn’t need any persuasion to get to Swingtacular. In case you do, here a just a few reasons why this event is out of this world (pun totes intended). 5. Live music creates dance magic! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xpbi8rWtroA Dancing to live music is the sh*t, and the Event Directors Ben McHenry ...

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The Spotlight Can Wait

Hello, friends, 2016 means something different to everyone. For me, it meant that it wasn't my turn. "Spotlight moments" aka the standard graduations, job promotions, engagements, etc. didn't happen for me -- and that's perfectly fine. I didn't think so at first, but as we're nearing the year's end I learned a very valuable lesson ...

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I am a Westie and I’m Human Too.

Since I got back from Wild Wild Westie (which hard to believe it's been almost 2 months now), I've had a multitude of conversations with friends about how some dancers are progressing rapidly up the ranks, while we're having difficulty where we currently reside in the WSDC tiers. Two amazing articles were published by two ...

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What Do You Want Out of West Coast Swing?

I had the wonderful opportunity to work with Brandon Parker at Wild Wild Westie, and he posed the question to me: What do you want out of West Coast Swing? My initial reaction was to be an advanced dancer. Upon further revelations, there was more to my goals than the competitive level. What a Feeling!!! YES. Ideally I would ...

5 Times The Wild: Wild Wild Westie 2016

It was only a week ago that Westies near and far (even a gentleman from Paris! Yes, Paris France!) gathered at the luxurious Westin Galleria in Dallas for the 5th annual Wild Wild Westie West Coast Swing dance convention put on by Event Directors, Tracy Wang, Jay Tsai, and CJ Caraway.  Thursday The event kicks off every year ...

Check Your Email!

Hello, everyone! My, my it's been a minute since I took my digital pen to this little space that is Steph's public diary to the world. Spending 40 days away from social media cleared my mind with new perspectives, and I'm here to brief you on the outcome with Buzzfeed and some other job news. ...

10 Reasons I’d Kick Butt at Buzzfeed

You see TONS and Tons of " ... Reasons for Buzzfeed to hire me" posts. This is a list of reasons why if Buzzfeed hires me, I'd totally be kicking ass and taking names as a BF Producer Fellow. 10. As queen of "Birthdayland" (decorator of desks for office birthdays), chief of staff breakfast runs, and resident cheerleader, ...

#StephSpiels: Scott Brothers Adding a Dose of Kindness to The Business World

How many of you had an "errand run" or a restaurant experience ruined out by bad service? Negativity in the workplace is not an uncommon occurrence. How does kindness win in business: an occupational world meant to be cutthroat? Earlier this week Jonathan and Drew Scott caught my attention showing the world hospitality has a place ...

#TheRoadToVegas: Discovering The Dream Job of Working for Scott Brothers Entertainment

Now, people might ask me... Steph, why would you be so ambitious enough to dream about working for such a thriving entrepreneurial force? The goal might a strenuous one to reach, but that's exactly why I want to reach it. SBE is responsible for many of the successful projects for J.D., Drew, and Jonathan Scott. I would ...

Late Late Show’s latest Carpool Karaoke Has “No Control”

https://youtu.be/329xjDM7YaE "Late Late Show With James Corden" segment "Carpool Karaoke" this week featured the wildly popular, One Direction. The video dropped on Dec. 15, and already has over 5 million views. On their excursion around L.A. they sing some of 1D's hits such as "Story of My Life," "Best Song Ever," and "Drag Me Down." James made ...

Great Moments… To 2K15 & Beyond…

Hi, everyone, Instead of my usual tradition of retrospecting the year's highlights... I'd like to say some things about the present and the future... not as "Steph the Westie," but Steph the passionate conversationalist... Tonight, I finished binge watching one of my favorite series: "How I Met Your Mother," for the 2nd time... And I ...

They Stole The Show – Jordan Frisbee and Tatiana Mollmann Retire From Classic

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWyFpcKtme4&feature=player_embedded This past Thanksgiving weekend "the Olympics" of West Coast Swing took place in Burbank, CA. The US Open hosted the home stretch of the NASDE Classic division. We saw new partnerships, blossoming routines from seasoned couples, and yes... the official retirement from the NASDE (National Association of Swing Dance Events) Classic  division: Jordan Frisbee ...

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We Interrupt These Westie News For This Brief Update…

"OMG! I totally thought you were in California now!" "What you're not from the Bay area?" "What's new with you?Are you just dancing now?" These questions filled my conversations lately, and a realization dawned on me. My hobby of West Coast Swing dominated so much of my life, people had this notion my full-time job ...

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If Westie University Existed….

Ahhh... WestieU... where the hotels are our campus, workshops are our classroom and late night socials are one big giant frat/keg party. How the first day of college would feel every year, if it was like the first day of events...  How you greet people if you actually come to the class (aka workshops) after a ...

Looking Past The Westie Blinders…

Obstacles present themselves constantly in West Coast Swing. But as there's another saying that I think goes with my current cloud of doubt. "Don't dance for the audience, dance for yourself." - Bob Fosse. With any competitive activity, it's easy to get lost in the details, but we have to remember that we got into ...

Video Helped The Westie Star – Why Filming Yourself Dance is A Key Learning Tool

Similar to how actors review their performances from film to film, we dancers study a lot about our own journey throughout the archives. Dance videos document progress, shows coaches what their students excel and struggle with, and they inspire fellow dancers. Evolution of a Westie... Have you ever watched a pro athlete in the beginning ...

What Makes a Good Lead?

A gentleman asked my friend and me, "What makes a good lead?" The answer varies heavily and remains subjective upon followers. I write this post inspired by this amazing post by The Dancing Grapevine. A good lead ensures both he and the follower enjoy the dance, takes risks (without harming/injuring anyone), and takes care of the follower ...

We’re Going to the Wild Wild Westie… And NEVER LEAVING! The Magical Tales of WWW2K15

Editor's Note: For the official blogging and happenings of WWW2K15 Check out Liza May's account. Here are my Top 10 Things I loved about W3 - 2K15 Edition. 10. The BBQ!  Every year Amber and Brian Knorr open up their gorgeous home to over 80+ westies as a way to kick off the event. The pre-party has an enormous family reunion ...

When Westie Met Cha Cha: Tristan MacManus OKC Master Class Recap

A room full of grown women turn into bashful giggling school girls and the men are inspired to puff their chests with a little more bravado. An extremely handsome and charming gentleman must be present to cause such a reaction. Enter "Dancing With the Stars" and "Strictly Come Dancing" Professional, Tristan MacManus. DZP 3Sixty Dance Studio invited ...

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Westie Update With Steph Pham

Hi, everyone! Happy Easter and hope you all have a swinging start to your spring. Let me catch you up on a few things. 🙂 Ben Morris Weekend in March First, a big thank you to Ben Morris for visiting the OKC Swing Dance Club and teaching a workshop weekend last month! Even though I ...

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Hooked On A Westie Feeling

A young gentleman parted some wisdom which resonated strongly with me today. "People will remember what you say for moments... People will remember what you do for weeks or months if you are lucky... What will make a lasting impact and what they truly will remember is how you made them feel." As I filmed his ...

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Dancing With My Heart in West Coast Swing…

The new year brings bountiful opportunities for West Coast Swing events and competitions. With those competitions comes the common question... "How do I get better fast?" I cannot tell you the "quick fix" or the universal diagnosis. Whether you are a social dancer, competitor or any other member of West Coast Swing, you must ask ...

There’s No Place I’d Rather Be… Monterey Swingfest 2015 Recap

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m-M1AtrxztU Ahhhhh, I am slowly waking up from this dream… the dream that was Monterey Swingfest 2015. Did I really go to California? Did this little duckling from Oklahoma compete in not 1 but 2 divisions on a Cali WCS floor? Yes, and I lived to tell the tale. Thursday: My westie traveling companion, Heather, and ...

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Sweet US Open Dreams Are Made Of These

Impossible. FREAKIN' Impossible to put into words how magical and fantastical The 2014 US Open Swing Dance Championship (aka the Superbowl/Olympics of West Coast Swing) truly was. Classic and Showcase routines, mind blowing. Crazy good J&Js and Strictlys from every level. Amazing social dancing music (which i'm ripping for my next DJ gig fyi) from ...

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… And A Thankful Westie On The Dance Floor

There is a moment West Coast Swing consumes one's life. Well, that moment was this whole year. I attended my first westie event at Wild Wild Westie (Thanks, Tracy, CJ, and Jay!). I went from swearing I would never do a Jack and Jill to competing in not one but three this year. West Coast ...

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Turning Luxury into Opportunity with West Coast Swing

Dancing looks super luxurious - costumes, travel, and even the art itself can be glamourous. The truth is... we dancers know the expenses build up. There are dances classes, private coaching, competitions, events, social dancing on a consistent basis. West Coast Swing may be a little more laid back than some of its other partner dance ...

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Put a Heart On Your Dance — Memorable Social Dancing in West Coast Swing

West Coast Swing dancers go to events for several different reasons... To watch and get inspired by their dance peers, compete, social dance... One thing a lot of westies love at events - Social dancing. Some of the most magical moments happen either at late night or during the dance breaks in between comps. I ...

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What’s Your Why in West Coast Swing?

"We sit in the locker room and we ask ourselves this every game... 'What's your Why?'" I watched as the exuberant little JV high school footballer say in the package one of my media students produced. I decided to apply that to one of my biggest passions in life... West Coast Swing. Why do I ...

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West Coast Swing Is A Real Dance, Thank You

West Coast Swing may not be your dance. That is understandable. What is unnecessary is stating "West Coast Swing is NOT dancing." I shared my zeal and interest with someone recently. She said, "Oh, that is not real dancing," after viewing a video clip of two top Champion dancers. Non-dancers often generalize one swing dance they ...

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