Own Your No


Rejection. It’s hard not to take personally, and it’s hard not to be marked a b*tch or son of a b*tch for doing the actual rejection. But Gopal is correct. Rejection doesn’t have to be negative. Rejection can save us from a lot of physical, mental and emotional pain. Rejection and Work Right after college, […]

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Embrace Your Weird


When society hears the word, “weird” we think of scars, bumps, bruises, flaws. When in reality, each little quirk that makes us “weird” really creates our separate and singular identity. My message for you, embrace your weird. I was that kid…      I  was an odd kid.  Some days in elementary school, I played on […]

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I’ve Got A Dream


If this is a safe space for sharing our hopes and dreams, and I like to think that it is, I’m going to share something I really haven’t mentioned before – I want to be a panelist someday. For what kind of event, I have no clue. To be honest, I’m not even sure I […]

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Let’s Be Good Humans


Justin Baldoni of Jane The Virgin fame delivered a very powerful talk about “redefining masculinity.” Before you read on, you NEED to watch this speech. For a while now I’ve been an advocate for “being good humans” and Justin’s eloquent and relatable speech speaks on that to the power of 10. I found Baldoni’s speech […]

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Tick Tock Goes The Universe Clock


  It’s December! How crazy is that? If you’re reading this, congrats on surviving 2017. It was a tumultuous year full of plenty of highs and lows. I know I visited this subject plenty of times, but I just want to repeat how important it is to trust God’s (the universe, or whatever higher power […]

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Keep Sweet Dreams Sweet


Today’s post deals with something I talk about frequently and I’m passionate about — dreams, specifically a PSA to not sh*t on YOUR dreams and the dreams of others. I’m a firm believer in not doubting your own dreams. If you want to find a cure for cancer or shoot hoops in the NBA, that is […]

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2017 The Road to Stable Mental Health


 I used to think the worst thing was to end up alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is end up with people who make you feel all alone – Robin Williams 2017 – the year I focused on my mental health. Mental health was marked for a lengthy period of time, taboo. I’m […]

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Passion is The Key


You were made for the place where your real passion meets your compassion, because there lies your purpose. – Ann Voskamp The Giving Key is a business built on two premises – a single word and giving. They help transition many out of homelessness, and their headquarters are near skid row (a prominent community of […]

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“The Main Thing of The Thing”


“If you take away anything from today’s homily, it’s this- don’t forget the main thing of the thing,” – Fr. James Goins It’s 2017, and Christmas has gone fully commercialized. There was a time when I was a kid when yes I care about gifts, but what I enjoyed more was looking at Christmas lights, […]

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We Don’t Talk Anymore — Our Lack of Conversation


 “We’re dying for lack of conversation. We’re dying for lack of kindness. We’re dying for lack of understanding. ” – Zac Levi As a society, we don’t talk anymore – or at least have deep meaningful conversations. You guys are probably thinking that I’m writing my Master’s thesis on Zac on how much I talk […]

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From Insomnia to Refreshment


  Sometimes, I don’t to want to write things out. I want an unedited, unfiltered, on-the-spot first reaction. That’s how I wanted to tell the story of this morning. On an early morning where insomnia found me, I stumbled upon this gem of a panel. I didn’t want my thoughts to stop me from saying […]

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2K17: Embracing Uncertainty


I don’t want to know my future. I want to find it. – Zac Levi Every time the year comes closer to an end, I get more retrospective than usual. If you visited my blog, you’re no stranger to my recaps. Even if the themes remain the same, there’s something I learned – taking care […]

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I started a podcast!


Hello, everyone! I know I haven’t written on here in a long time, but I started a new venture in podcasting and would to know what you think! If you love TV or find yourself staring at your Netflix wondering what to watch, wait no more! Listen as I share my commentary on the shows I’ve […]

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Single Life :)


I have a confession to make. I’m a 27-year-old who has never been on a date in her life. No, this is not a “boo-hoo, poor me” post. It’s not even an “I AM WOMAN. HEAR ME ROAR” post. Wong Fu Productions did a round table in their lunch break series about “singledom” and single […]

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Learning to not give a f*ck


For those of you who know me really well, you know I have a pattern. It’s been a pattern since I could remember. Yes, I fall for a certain archetype (we established this). But recently, I’ve noticed a difference in my perspective, and it’s this beautiful thing called “not giving a f*ck. (I really need […]

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30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 19


Editor’s Note: I apologize for leaving such a huge gap! Some stuff went down recently, and I had to take a few days off to really process and get into a better headspace.  Day 19 – Declutter that messy head! What’s going? Are you stressed? What is on your mind?  Well, lots of things… I had […]

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30 Days of Journaling – Day 14


Make a list of the people in your life who genuinely believe in and support you, and whom you trust. ** This is list is hella huge, so allow me to get through it, haha. My Dance Fam –  Y’all encouraged me since I met you felt the love since day 1. Thank you for allowing […]

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30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 9


  *Author’s note – I cheated and stole the “30-day letter writing challenge” prompt because I thought writing about sleep sounded boring.  Letter Writing Challenge Day 9 – Write To Someone You Wish You Could Meet  (Y’all already know who this is going to… so I’ll try to be the least bit repetitive from my previous […]

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30 Day Stress Relief Journal Day 8


Day 8: What are two negative thoughts you don’t want anymore? What can you do to let go?  If you had to rate me on the optimist-pessimist scale, you could say I’m in between. I’m not a raging optimist (even though I try to be), and I’m not someone who is exactly completely negative 100% of […]

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30 Day Stress Relief Journal Day 7


Day 7: Today I love my body because….  Today I love my body because it tells the story of my past and present. Hello, Steph Pham readers! Today I’m feeling rather confident, and it’s not because I made the effort of waking up at 5:30 A.M. to shower, style my hair and makeup before work I’m […]

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30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 5


Disclaimer: I know I skipped Day 4, but I wasn’t really in the headspace to write yesterday, but YAY! Day 5! Day 5 – List 10 Things that make you smile. 10. Memes –  –  My friends and I share memes back and forth like a conversation, and it’s wonderful. 9. West Coast Swing – I […]

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30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 3


  Day 3: Describe a happy memory? What do you see, smell, hear, feel?  I was originally going to write about my family trip to Disney World back in 2010. About how the color was mega-watt vibrant, the smells of many varieties of food, the feeling of a euphoria cornucopia (that’s basically Disney World). I loved Disney […]

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30 Day Stress Relief Journal – Day 2


Day 2: What’s going well in your life right now?  Self-worth. I’ve come to a place where I truly base my value and worthiness off of my attitude, ethos, and kindness I deliver out to the world. I suffered from Obsessive Comparison Disorder for the longest time. Especially when I was in dance. I would […]

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30 Day Stress Relief Journal Prompts: Day 1


“Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that thankfulness is indeed a virtue.” – William Bennett DAY 1: I’m thankful for what I have, because… I’m thankful for what I have because it makes me human. Gratitude humbles us and grounds us in reality. I didn’t want to turn this post into a soapbox, so following […]

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Things With Steph Pham – A Post Inspired By Zac Levi


  @ZacharyLevi needing a writing prompt for my journal… wanna start a sentence and I'll write a free write from it? 🙂 pic.twitter.com/k7ipfFSrWq — Steph Pham (@stephlpham) May 27, 2017 When in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the material bonds which have connected them with stuff… https://t.co/QBywS5imci […]

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Self Worth & Phamily: The Story Behind My Chosen Words For MyIntent


I’m not one to buy into Facebook ads. However, the ones for “MyIntent” kept popping up in my NewsFeed so I decided to check out their story and mission. Their mission statement grabbed my attention because I’m a conversationalist at heart. God gave me the gift of incessantly talking. The older I get, the more I […]

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Obsessive Compulsive Dreaming Disorder


Obsessive Compulsive Dreaming Disorder. Is it a real condition? No. Do I think I have it? Yes. I’m a constant dreamer. Both in the “I go to sleep and dream,” sense and the dreamer of fantasies, desires and beyond. They say your subconsciousness reveals more about you than your consciousness. So, I do ponder my […]

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You Get To Find A New Dream


After viewing the amazing Broadway production that is She Loves Me thanks to BroadwayHD, I had a curiosity and wonder if an opportunity was available at what appeared to be an elite and showstopping company. BroadwayHD is a streaming service that offers live performance lovers everywhere the chance to experience the theater even if they […]

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Don’t Take Your Local Westie Scene For Granted


As I’m soaking in the deliciousness of the salted caramel gelato, my friend Meredith said something that grabbed my attention. We talked about how we traveled a bit and how we peeked into some local scenes. When the subject of  blessed local studios/swing dance societies with great promoters, DJs, teachers & well diverse group of dancers, […]

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Top 5 Reasons to go to Swingtacular!


Westies (aka West Coast Swing dancers) shouldn’t need any persuasion to get to Swingtacular. In case you do, here a just a few reasons why this event is out of this world (pun totes intended). 5. Live music creates dance magic! Dancing to live music is the sh*t, and the Event Directors Ben McHenry and […]

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The Spotlight Can Wait


Hello, friends, 2016 means something different to everyone. For me, it meant that it wasn’t my turn. “Spotlight moments” aka the standard graduations, job promotions, engagements, etc. didn’t happen for me — and that’s perfectly fine. I didn’t think so at first, but as we’re nearing the year’s end I learned a very valuable lesson […]

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I am a Westie and I’m Human Too.


Since I got back from Wild Wild Westie (which hard to believe it’s been almost 2 months now), I’ve had a multitude of conversations with friends about how some dancers are progressing rapidly up the ranks, while we’re having difficulty where we currently reside in the WSDC tiers. Two amazing articles were published by two […]

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What Do You Want Out of West Coast Swing?


I had the wonderful opportunity to work with Brandon Parker at Wild Wild Westie, and he posed the question to me: What do you want out of West Coast Swing? My initial reaction was to be an advanced dancer. Upon further revelations, there was more to my goals than the competitive level. What a Feeling!!! YES. Ideally I would […]

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5 Times The Wild: Wild Wild Westie 2016


It was only a week ago that Westies near and far (even a gentleman from Paris! Yes, Paris France!) gathered at the luxurious Westin Galleria in Dallas for the 5th annual Wild Wild Westie West Coast Swing dance convention put on by Event Directors, Tracy Wang, Jay Tsai, and CJ Caraway.  Thursday The event kicks off every year […]

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Check Your Email!


Hello, everyone! My, my it’s been a minute since I took my digital pen to this little space that is Steph’s public diary to the world. Spending 40 days away from social media cleared my mind with new perspectives, and I’m here to brief you on the outcome with Buzzfeed and some other job news. […]

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10 Reasons I’d Kick Butt at Buzzfeed


You see TONS and Tons of ” … Reasons for Buzzfeed to hire me” posts. This is a list of reasons why if Buzzfeed hires me, I’d totally be kicking ass and taking names as a BF Producer Fellow. 10. As queen of “Birthdayland” (decorator of desks for office birthdays), chief of staff breakfast runs, and resident cheerleader, […]

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#StephSpiels: Scott Brothers Adding a Dose of Kindness to The Business World


How many of you had an “errand run” or a restaurant experience ruined out by bad service? Negativity in the workplace is not an uncommon occurrence. How does kindness win in business: an occupational world meant to be cutthroat? Earlier this week Jonathan and Drew Scott caught my attention showing the world hospitality has a place […]

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Late Late Show’s latest Carpool Karaoke Has “No Control”


“Late Late Show With James Corden” segment “Carpool Karaoke” this week featured the wildly popular, One Direction. The video dropped on Dec. 15, and already has over 5 million views. On their excursion around L.A. they sing some of 1D’s hits such as “Story of My Life,” “Best Song Ever,” and “Drag Me Down.” James made his […]

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Great Moments… To 2K15 & Beyond…


Hi, everyone, Instead of my usual tradition of retrospecting the year’s highlights… I’d like to say some things about the present and the future… not as “Steph the Westie,” but Steph the passionate conversationalist… Tonight, I finished binge watching one of my favorite series: “How I Met Your Mother,” for the 2nd time… And I […]

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They Stole The Show – Jordan Frisbee and Tatiana Mollmann Retire From Classic


This past Thanksgiving weekend “the Olympics” of West Coast Swing took place in Burbank, CA. The US Open hosted the home stretch of the NASDE Classic division. We saw new partnerships, blossoming routines from seasoned couples, and yes… the official retirement from the NASDE (National Association of Swing Dance Events) Classic  division: Jordan Frisbee and […]

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We Interrupt These Westie News For This Brief Update…


“OMG! I totally thought you were in California now!” “What you’re not from the Bay area?” “What’s new with you?Are you just dancing now?” These questions filled my conversations lately, and a realization dawned on me. My hobby of West Coast Swing dominated so much of my life, people had this notion my full-time job […]

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If Westie University Existed….


Ahhh… WestieU… where the hotels are our campus, workshops are our classroom and late night socials are one big giant frat/keg party. How the first day of college would feel every year, if it was like the first day of events…  How you greet people if you actually come to the class (aka workshops) after a […]

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Looking Past The Westie Blinders…


Obstacles present themselves constantly in West Coast Swing. But as there’s another saying that I think goes with my current cloud of doubt. “Don’t dance for the audience, dance for yourself.” – Bob Fosse. With any competitive activity, it’s easy to get lost in the details, but we have to remember that we got into […]

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